A friend once told me that women are the glue in a relationship (yes, he was a man). As women, we are designed to do so much – we bear children, we bleed mysteriously for days every month without dying, we hold our families together when all else is falling apart.
As mothers, we tend to put our family’s welfare before our own. Our lives are subsumed into our family unit, and our purpose in life seems to be keeping small people alive and making our house a home. The life that once was exciting and thrilling, full of all kinds of adventure, becomes a daily attempt to hang on to sanity. Sex, which used to happen ALL THE TIME, now happens on those infrequent nights that we aren’t completely exhausted AND are able to get the kids to sleep so we don’t get caught. If we work outside the home too, well, good luck.
I’m not saying that men don’t work to hold their families together. That would be a RIDICULOUS generalization, and an insult to many of the men I know. What I’m saying is that it is all too easy as women to let the weariness take hold and to allow it to come between us and our partner. I don’t know the answer. I do have questions, though –
How do you “keep the fires burning” in your relationship?
Can you think of a time that you or your partner allowed everyday life to come between you? Were you able to communicate and resolve the issue?
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